When I opened the Front Row Centre Facebook group, I decided to ask everyone who wanted to join the community 3 questions. 1 of the questions was “when was the last time you celebrated yourself?” I was honestly taken back by the responses I received. There were so many that stated that they don’t recall the last time they celebrated themselves. Some even stated that they didn’t know how to celebrate themselves or even what they would be celebrating.
This broke my heart and after the 55th response to the 3 questions, I decided that I needed to do something about this epidemic that so many women are living. We spend so much time focusing on our partners, our children, our fur-babies, our businesses or jobs, the household chores, daily activities, children activities, errands, cooking, outside maintenance and so many things I have yet to mention. Because our minds are filled with all that ‘stuff’ we tend to put ourselves on the back burner. You know, the burner that barely gets turned on (Woah… did your mind just go there…oops! That is so NOT what I meant).
Have you ever heard the saying ‘if your cup is not overflowing then you cannot pour into others’? Well please, take it from me… it is SO true. When I am not overflowing in energy, kindness, love, rest and gratitude I am not the best me for my family, friends, business partners and clients. I have learned that I need to take care of me 1st before I even try to care for others. I learned this the hard way.
In the course of 16 months, I was living a life that I wanted to be removed from. I made some life decisions and they put me in a dark place. Thankfully my husband was in on the decisions with me and when we both realized the direction our journey was taking we put a complete halt to it all and thank goodness we did. But going through all of this I didn’t take care of myself at all. I stopped putting myself 1st in my life. I ended up becoming a crummy wife, mom, friend and entrepreneur. I stopped going out, networking, attending meetings, I said no to speaking opportunities and I gained 40 pounds. Life sucked and people could tell that I was not happy.
Fast-forward to today and I am living beyond satisfied. Since I have been putting myself first and celebrating me, I am a better wife, mom, friend and entrepreneur. I have also removed 18 of those 40 pounds and I am working off the rest. I can be the best me for everyone who needs me because I am happy and I have found the gratitude and positivity in every situation. I choose to celebrate myself and my accomplishments, as well as my little wins and things that most would not even acknowledge as a win.
Because I have found happiness, joy, gratitude and positivity in everything again (mind you, it takes a lot of effort to do so) I am overflowing and need to spill into others or I will just burst. For example, here is how my Sunday went:
6:30 am – woke up and went swimming at the YMCA
8:15 am – left the house to drive our son to a sports clinic 1-hour away
(while Hubby drove, I wrote a blog and my weekly e-story)
11:15 am – back in town and went grocery shopping
12:30 pm – groceries away & visit with my Dad
1:00 pm – put on a roast, baked 2 dozen muffins, a cake and made homemade applesauce
3:00 pm – folded 3 loads of laundry
3:30 pm – worked on my blog and weekly e-story
6:00 pm – completed supper and cleaned up (with help from Hubby)
7:00 pm – board game with the family, I lost!
7:30 pm – setup baths for the little (my 2 youngest boys)
8:00 pm – work on blog (writing this) and work on celebration challenge
10:00 pm – NBA Raptors vs. Lakers game on TV, while working on social media for the week, until I fall asleep
Now, I don’t tell you this to gloat or to stroke my ego. I tell this to you because, in the midst of the fullest Sunday I have had in a long time, I was happy, full of gratitude and felt so accomplished after every task that I wanted to keep going. Did you notice that I started the day solely focused on me, I went swimming. This filled my cup and helped me stay focused on the tasks at hand. This Sunday I can officially say that I lived beyond being just satisfied. I am extremely happy and I let me tell you, I celebrated me and my accomplishments all day, as I finished each and every task.
I want all women to feel fulfilled in their lives. I want them to celebrate all their successes, even the little wins. I want all women to love the life they have chosen to live and if they are not fully content and living beyond satisfied I want to help them discover the tools and motivation that they need to make the necessary changes within themselves, so that they can be the best ‘them’ for their journey of life and the ones they choose to share the journey with.
This is why I have created the 10 Day Celebrate You Party. You will receive a daily email containing a celebration story, tips on celebrating yourself and a daily task to celebrate you! Why? Because you are human, you are alive and you are breathing. You have a purpose on this earth and you are a miracle… it’s time to truly celebrate YOU!
If you would like to join me on the 10 Day Celebrate You Party, simply sign up here: Let’s Celebrate!
(Psst…it’s free to join)
Whether you choose to participate or not, I want you to find a way to celebrate yourself every day, for the next few days. I want you to take care of you and ut you first, so that you can be a Rockstar for yourself and to those who need you!
XO ~ Sara L. Clarke